I look forward to my daily Google Alerts. This morning I found this gem posted on an IVillage,com message board called “The Lipstick Lounge”
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“I’m a social introvert. It’s hard for me to be this way because I like people, I like interacting and sometimes I wonder why I don’t get my energy around them or can’t be like social extroverts who can go, go, go when they are around people. It took me a long time to realize I need my down time, and being fine alone and being happy alone isn’t a bad thing.
Because I don’t get my energy from other people doesn’t mean I can’t interact with them. Running is something that wears me down too (I’m not a runner, I don’t even get that ‘runner’s high’), but I still do it though I end up needing to rest afterwards. It’s kind of the same idea.”
I love how the writer demonstrates self acceptance. And she turns the myth about reclusive introverts on it’s head. Just give me some down time to recover, say the introverts.
Also – what a great analogy about the Push strategy of forcing yourself to run and then recouping. My guess is that the writer has developed socializing ease through her disciplined execution.
Thank you “Sparkle.Tangerine” for your well expressed wisdom.
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“Much of my work as a virtual assistant involves social media these
days. Initially, this was much easier for me to handle as an
(extreme) introvert. Strangely enough, I find that as friend counts
climb and the volume of online communication grows, I react with the
same sense of overwhelm, stress and exhaustion as I do to live or
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I agree with her – I can be social, and I need to regain some energy after those times. I love talking with interesting people, having lively discussions and so on. And then after that, I like to go somewhere quiet and recharge for a while.
I’ve noticed that if I am fully-charged and feeling good about myself, those social times are great. However, if I’m already worn down, then I do things to avoid being in social situations. It’s sort of a protective response.
Thanks Steve. I agree that stress can make connecting a chore. You are right….self -confidence affects how we show up.