Comments on: “Grow Out of Introversion?”

By: Marielle

Marielle — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 09:47:57 +0000

For me, the best advisor is to behave in a way that makes me feel comfortable, that fulfills me. Being an introvert doesn’t imply I am a loner, but I have a harder time finding people I communicate well with. The mother could change playmate for her son until finding one he enjoys being with.

Forcing an introvert to behave in a way that is culturally considered best (i.e. extroverted) will most probably lead that person to unhappiness. However, we may feel the need to communicate while lacking the social skills to be able to, which also leads to unhappiness. Our needs should lead us toward a personal growth which will provide us more satisfaction in our everyday life.

As for introversion as a non desirable personality, it comes to me that companies may fear that communication will be a weak factor with an introverted person. That things will not be well communicated through the company, that an introverted person will not communicate well their ideas, or that they will not help in improving communication within a group of people.

By: Nick Laborde

Nick Laborde — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:34:06 +0000

There is definitely that belief out there and it would be a daunting task to try and change. Wasting valuable energy trying to change others is a loosing battle. I choose to focus my energy on embracing my DNA and being the best that I can be.

In my view, the only way to have true sustainable success, either business or personal, is to remain true to ourselves. Any business that views introverts as undesirable employees suffers from bad leadership. If they fail to address their flawed views, then they are probably destined for the BK line anyways.

By: Christie

Christie — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 00:59:17 +0000

I think that’s terrible that John Rosemond said that about introversion. (I usually like his advice too). Can you imagine how flawed that child will feel when his mom keeps measuring and comparing and worrying as he doesn’t “grow out of” his introversion?

I agree with you and Nick totally – I enjoy being an introvert, enjoy it very much. Learning that I am one, and that that is *why* I have certain preferences, was the key. Now that I know that I can consciously do what I need to do at work in order to let the company know I’m here and I’m productive.

By: Jennifer Kahnweiler

Jennifer Kahnweiler — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 13:17:29 +0000

Thanks Nick…You share this view with many introverts. There still seems to be belief out there, however, that Introversion is not a desirable personality. This spills over into the organizations I deal with..your thoughts?

By: Nick Laborde

Nick Laborde — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 12:17:11 +0000

Introversion is definitely something you don’t grow out of. Personally I have benefited from learning more about it and embracing it rather then fighting it.